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Disabled And Horny: What’s The Big Deal?
By Mayfair Confidential
Disabled And Horny: What’s The Big Deal?

Humans need sex, yet even now, it raises a few eyebrows. Some topics are still considered taboo and people are reluctant to learn more about them and speak up. When it comes to sexual desire and needs people often overlook the fact that people with disabilities are not so different from everyone else in terms of libido and sexual attraction. Many people wouldn’t even think about it, but if they could approach the topic from a disabled person’s point of view it would be easier to understand. This is a touchy subject for several reasons and as with any uncomfortable subject, it should be addressed, rather than swept under the rug.

Sometimes it can be difficult for someone with a disability to find a sexual partner or to engage in regular sex because he or she have physical limitations caused by disability. Everyone needs contact, physical and emotional. Being deprived of human touch can lead to feelings of isolation causing illnesses like depression. This shows that the issue with the desexualisation of disabled people goes a lot deeper than just sex. A sex therapist can have a positive effect on life quality for people with disability.

Disable people don’t necessarily seek sex from escorts; many, like those without a disability, seek companionship. Whether it’s the affection for someone or simply somebody to talk to, connecting with others is a basic necessity.

Shouldn’t we support those with a disability to achieve a fulfilled life… to achieve a sex life?

This topic has sparked a lot of controversy in Australia. Although there are some countries, such as the Netherlands and Denmark, where sex therapists for disabled people are covered by disability health insurance, this issue hasn’t yet been resolved in Australia. There’s an ongoing debate whether sex therapy services should be covered by the National Disability Insurance Scheme (NDIS). Disability advocates are raising awareness and they are underlying the importance of sex for the physical and emotional well being of disabled people.

A recent case has caused a heated debate in political circles. A woman with a disability has won the right to have sex worker services covered by the NDIS for the first time. After being initially rejected by the NDIS, she appealed against the decision and eventually won the case. The NDIS stated that the woman wasn’t demanding “reasonable and necessary support”.

This is exactly the root of the problem. We as a society need to stop considering sex as a luxury for people with disability. Sex is not a luxury, it’s a basic human need. For now, we can only hope that disability advocates will succeed in their mission and that this issue will be resolved soon in favour of people with disability. Until then, disabled people need to rely on themselves and certain organisations to meet their needs.

Luckily, some organisations recognise this and want to connect those with a disability, with sex workers. Touching Base Inc. is a charitable organisation which tends to sexual needs of people with a disability. Their website raises awareness on the issues surrounding the access and provision of Sex Industry services for people with a disability. Touching Base offers professional training and workshops for sex workers. You can also read amazing and inspiring personal stories from both parties on the website. It’s a great place to connect and educate, whether you’re a sex worker or a person with a disability, you’ll find what you’re looking for.

So how can we help make a difference? First step is to recognise and accept that this is an issue in Australian society. More and more people with a disability are ready for their voices and opinions to be heard. We all just need to listen.

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