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How do I become an escort: 5 tips for new sex workers by Rain Morgan
By Mayfair Confidential
How do I become an escort: 5 tips for new sex workers by Rain Morgan

The past year has been an interesting time for sex workers. Economic turmoil has led to many new workers joining the industry, whether doing virtual services like Only Fans or in person.

Being a new escort to the industry can be hard at times. Don’t worry if you aren’t sure of yourself and your instincts yet – it does take some time figuring it all out.

When it comes to safety, marketing, your persona, it can all seem like learning a new language!

Tip #1: Trust yourself.

Whether you do in-person or virtual services, there will always be clients who offer bookings that sound too good to be true, who waste your time and test your boundaries.

It takes time to learn these signs but always trust your gut! Your instincts are rarely wrong. Learn what your boundaries are and stick to them firmly. Learn to practice saying ‘no’.

Also, trust yourself when it comes to the services you offer, your rates, your marketing and persona. The industry can seem loud sometimes, and you may be swayed by others opinions and feedback. Stay firm, you know what works for you.

Tip #2: Educate yourself on Sexual Health.

Educate yourself on the signs and symptoms of STI’s. The RED Book is an excellent resource for this. Find a sex worker friendly sexual health clinic in your area. In Melbourne that would be MSHC.

Also understand the laws of the state you are working in. Getting into touch with your local peer organisation, like Scarlet Alliance and SWOP, will benefit you in many different ways. You can get free/cheap condoms, lube, and dental dams from peer organisations and sexual health clinics.

Tip 3#: Keeping yourself safe.

When working in-person a safety tip to do is make all clients leave their personal belongings in the bathroom or on the floor, so any possible recording devices are out of sight. If you do in-calls, never give clients your address over text but tell them to come to a cross street and then call you for more information.

Some workers do ‘safety calls’ where a friend or fellow peer calls them at the start/end of the booking to check they are all ok. You may also ask for deposits and ID from clients for screening practices.

For online work, make sure you turn off geotagging in your phone settings so the selfies you post to social media don’t accidentally reveal your location. Get a separate phone and sim card for work, separate social media(s).

Understand and really think about the consequences of being face out or face in. Do you want to travel overseas to say the Middle East or America in the future? Work in law, social work, psychology, education? If you reside in Victoria and get the legally required SWA, sex work license number, this is something that can never be wiped from your record.

Tip 4#: Don’t spend everything you make.

One of the most seductive parts of the sex industry is you can make bank really quickly. If you come from a low socio-economic background, it can be very hard to fight the urge to save your money. You go and spend that new blood cash injection, on clothes, shoes, lingerie, and suddenly it’s all gone and you are worried about rent again.

We all have done it in the beginning! My best advice to baby hooker Rain is, save save save! Keep track of every cent you earn, when and how, keep receipts for anything work related you buy, and put money aside!

Having a splurge budget is important for self-care, but you will thank yourself in three months when the new worker craze fades and the quiet periods come, and unfortunately in this industry it is feast or famine. Having money saved away, prepaying your ads, helps keep you sane in the quiet times.

Pay your taxes! Your local peer organisation will be able to recommend sex work friendly accountants. Keep those receipts and claim claim claim!

Also, set up Beemit! It is an amazingly safe discrete and free app run by the big 3 banks to receive payment, deposits and even gift cards with. Use it!

Don’t fall into the social media ‘keeping up with the Jones’s’ blackhole where you go out and buy Louboutin’s, AP lingerie, to fit in with other workers on social media. Do so if you want to but don’t do it because you think you must. You are just as legit a sex worker if you don’t have a designer bag.

Same goes for photoshoots, professional photos will benefit you as an in-person worker, or to market online content, but it doesn’t mean you need to spend thousands on photoshoots. Finding new photographers offering TFP (Photos for free for their portfolio) shoots, short shoot packages, splitting a photoshoot location with another worker and so on, is a great way to save money and get some great pics. You don’t need to drop 5k on a fancy location and photographer for good photos!

Tip 5#: Get a website and social media!

Getting a website can be the last thing on your mind when you are just getting started, a profile on Mayfair Confidential or Scarlet Blue is enough right? But having your own website can be a great way to help yourself look ‘legitimate’ to clients who may question the new worker on the block. It’s also great for your mental health, inside of answering the same question in enquiries you can instead link to your website “as per my website you can see I offer xyz/my rates are xyz.”

You don’t have to spend big to set up a website, buy a domain and hosting and set up a WordPress, Wix, or Square-space website. Be careful to not host your website in the US! (Look into Fosta-Sesta.) If you would prefer to pay someone to set it up for you, check out Red Cloud Hosting! Further, if you’re interested to get some guidance and/or help with your personal brand, then make sure you check out Sin By Design.

Having a social media, like Twitter, Instagram, can help build relationships within the industry with your peers, build your branding and reach new clients, and is a great advertising tool – especially if you offer digital services like Only Fans, camming and so on.

Good luck!

By Rain Morgan

www.rainmorgan.eu

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